One destructive habit is to
constantly compare your life and yourself to other people and their lives. You compare cars, houses, jobs, shoes, money, relationships, social popularity and so on. And at the end of the day you
create a lot of negative feelings within. And perhaps also outside of yourself.
1. Be Kind
Judge people more and you tend to
judge yourself more. Be more kind to
other people and help them and you tend to be more kind and helpful to
yourself. The more you love other
people, the more your love yourself.
2. Don’t fall into the trap of hero worship
When you start to make myths out
of people - even though they may have produced extraordinary results - you run
the risk of becoming disconnected from them. You can start to feel like you
could never achieve similar things that they did because they are so very
different. So it's important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human
being no matter who they are. Openness
is in the long run more fun than being judgmental.
3. Just realize that you can't win
Just consciously realizing this
can be helpful. No matter what you do you can pretty much always find someone else in the world that has more than you or are
better than you at something. Yes, you may feel good for a while when you get a nicer car than you neighbor. But a week or two later you'll see someone from
the next block with an even finer car than yours.
4. Give up both sides of comparing
If you can't stop doing the
negative comparisons then stop doing them both. Because if you're in the
head space where you compare to feel better about yourself then it's hard to stop it and not also start to compare in way that
make you feel worse and inferior. So you may need to step out of that whole comparing habit because the two sides are often connected. Give up the upside to be able
to move away from the downside.
5. Compare yourself to yourself.
Instead of comparing yourself to
other people create the habit of comparing yourself to yourself. See how much you have grown, what you have achieved and what progress you have made towards your goals.
This habit has the benefit of
creating gratitude, appreciation and kindness towards yourself as you observe
how far you have come, the obstacles you have overcome and the good stuff you have done. You feel good about yourself without having
to think less of other people.
No comments:
Post a Comment