WORDS OF WISDOM

They always say time change things, but you actually have to change them yourself. - Andy Warhol

Too often we underestimate the power of touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn the life around. - Leo Buscaglla

Do not ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

Howard Thurman

Relax and Enjoy

Mediate and Feel

Chant and Sing

Breathe and Smile

Laugh and Play

Create and Envision

Let go, Forgive and Accept

Exercise and Move

Serve and Contribute

Listen and Learn

Consider and Reflect

Cultivate Oneself

Be Content

Lighten Up

Celebrate and Appreciate

Dream

Give Thanks

Evolve 

Love

Share, Give and Receive

Walk Softly

Live Gently

Expand, Radiate, and Dissolve

Surrender and Trust

Simplify.

PROCRASTINATION

You know what you want to do. 

You certainly know what you need to be doing.  

You know it must be done.

But you’re off somewhere else.

Because procrastination has once again swept into your mind and actions.

And so you escape.

Onto Facebook; Onto Netflix; Onto Chess.com; Onto books; Onto Fantasyland.

Avoiding by doing what you are suppose to do.

But what can you do about it ?  How to avoid feeling this way ?  

TELL ME ... 

HARD TO HAVE FUN

These days it is so hard to hang out with friends ...

Cannot find friends to do daring stuff like hang gliding, parachute jumping, scuba diving etc.

     Since I do not have a job, those daring stuff are kaput and probably for good.

     I am not like others who can do it on their own.

     Not too comfortable doing things alone and yet want to try those stuff.

Cannot find friends to understand what I am battling.

     Even now my brother does not seem to understand depression.

     Medication only controls what I am feeling - anger, sadness and despair.

     But does not eradicate it.

Cannot talk to brother for just talk it out.

     Brother somehow seems to switch the blame to me.

     For not having a backup plan when I quit my job.

     For being accuse of "deadbeat" when I want to apply for disability benefits.

     

Cannot find friends just to talk it out.

     Very few people knows about my depression.

     Refused to reveal to others for fear of stigma.

     If my brother cannot understand me, then what chance do others.

The oddest thing is I am more happy being alone hiding in my condo.

    Fear of rejection.

    Fear of not understanding conversation.

    Fear of being labelled "Deaf and Dumb"

Should I be afraid of my future ?

LIES THAT WE TELL OURSELVES

Most of us do not like liars. In fact, we often feel offended, even angry, when another person lies to us. But the truth is, everyone lie to ourselves every day. We always tell ourselves in negative sense and talk it out which limits our personal growth.  It also limit our ability to live a full and grounded life. We deserve to live life fully, to experience all of the joy and mystery that life has to offer. The first step towards this way of being is awareness. If we can become aware of the ways in which we are lying to ourselves, we can begin to filter our thoughts in a productive way. 

MY PAST WILL ALWAYS HAUNT ME.

It should be "Your past can haunt you if let it." But no, you are not doomed to spend the rest of your life desperately seeking love from anyone who will show it to you because of a parent who never did. The very thing you’re doing at this moment – self-reflection, questioning old thought patterns – is a great step in the direction of change. When you hold onto your history, you do so at the expense of your destiny.

IF ONLY I HAD (FILL IN BLANK), I WOULD BE HAPPY.

There are two ways of being rich in happiness: One is to have all you want, the other is to be satisfied with all you have.  Both ways are the same. The important thing is accepting and appreciate things now. You'll find more happiness. Happiness comes when you stop complaining about the troubles you have and start offering thanks for all the troubles you do not have. Just be grateful what you have.

I’M TOO OLD FOR THAT.

You are never too old to go after what you want. Nelson Mandela was 76 when he became president. Leonardo Da Vinci was 51 years old when he painted the Mona Lisa.  Everyone is on their own timeline. And you are never too old or too young to fulfill your calling.

THAT PERSON (FILL IN THE BLANK) HAS IT SO MUCH EASIER THAN ME.

So many people believe this especially for me as I am hearing impaired. But some people say it is simply not true. The truth is, you have no idea what other person’s life is about. Everyone is exploring and struggling in their own way. Nobody was handed a manual or an instruction guide for life – everyone is trying to figure it out just the same way you are. I once heard someone say if we all threw our problems into a pile in the middle of a room and were forced to choose one, we would scramble to retrieve our own.

I CAN DO IT TOMORROW.

This is probably the one of the most frequent lies we tell ourselves. But we all know it’s not true.  The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do. I am a victim of this, and always have put it off.  But one day you will wake up and there would not be any more time to work on the things you have always wanted to do. No one knows what the future holds and what good does it do to live in the "one of these days” mindset? The life you have is today and the time to live it is now. Besides, if we all waited until we were ready, we would never get anything done!

HAPPINESS IS THE FOUNDATION OF MY WELL-BEING.

We tell ourselves over and over again," I need to be happy."  We question ourselves.  Instead of telling ourselves we need to stay happy, we ought to be letting ourselves feel however we do at any given moment. This kind of permission to feel as we feel — not continuous happiness — is the foundation of your well-being.

VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

Violence against women is NOT acceptable in any form.

Earlier today, I made a FB post about my crush calling me a buddy and am stuck in friendship zone (through BitStrip cartoon).  However, unnamed person made an inappropriate comment that she should be punished and raped for sticking me in the friend zone.

Thanks to my friends who alerted me of this disgusting comment.  I have promptly deleted the post to prevent it from escalating further.  But unfortunately I had to spend the rest of the days answering the texts and emails as to how I was associated with this person.  I am too very upset and angry at this situation.  I have un-friend this person and distance myself from him.

I sincerely apologize for this inappropriate comment as it does not at all reflect my views.

#EndViolenceAgainstWoman #YesAllWomen

*****  Was posted on FB @ 06.02.2014 @ 23:06 *****